Love, are you there?

Like gravity, space, and time, love is relative to the user, owner, or receiver. Like the meaning of life, love is defined by the person whom wields it.

So, when a receiver feels different that then giver on what love fundamentally is, the relationship can not have any motion and will almost always die.

But what if one or the other could change?

Let us assume there are the surface personalities, which define who we are in our day-to-day lives, and the sub-surface personalities, which define who we are morally and ethically.

It is wrong to ask a person to change either of these. It is wrong to ask someone to change the surface personality because those traits are generally extraneous to the actual dynamic to the relationship. It is also wrong to ask them to change the sub-surface personality because it is what they are at their most fundamental root. And to ask someone to change that is to take away who they are, and who we are is all we truly have in this world.

The practical implication of this is that one can only exist indefinitely with someone who is an exact replica of the first person both on the surface and underneath. This idea is as corrupt as having someone change who they are at their most fundamental level.

So maybe, just maybe, if one is really, really lucky, one can find a complement to ones’ self and have this indefinite co-existence that I speak of so wistfully. A Relative Perspective